Difference Between Son and Daughter
Chinese have been discussing this topic for thousands of years, and presumably
will always be a topic – why do Chinese people prefer sons over daughters.
Today, in the 21 century, China is already at the initial stage of socialism.
The idea of patriarchy should not appear in the modern society. But in reality,
the idea of a son is above daughter are still ubiquitous. In this rapidly
developing economy, demands on children, students, and social workers are also
on the rise. It is also increasingly important to educate them in moral
education. However, the remnants of patriarchy old ideology still exist in the
family, schools, and society; which, has had a significant impact on the moral
education of members of society. Patriarchy must be removed from any aspects of
Parents treats their son and daughter
differently, especially in China. They believe that male has the ability to
inherit their parents’ career; thus, it is an honor to have a son. The son is
more masculine, and daughter is gentler. Since Chinese people established an
image of the masculine indomitable spirit of man; therefore, having a daughter
to a certain extent will affect the creation of this image. China has always
been an agricultural country, and farm work is a more labor-intensive activity.
However, women are obviously weaker than men muscle-wise. Therefore, give birth to a son will defiantly
help farming instead of daughters.
The impact of the entire social
environment also plays a role. The real man is being admired, versus strong
woman is being feared and uncertain. Due to this environment, men should be
stronger and better than women with no doubt. This explained why there were
only five women emperors in the past over five thousand years of history, and
currently with no premise of women president in China. Another reason is the inheritance of
surnames. Everyone will face dying someday in their lives, but the only thing
that can be passed on is their surname. In fact, due to Chinese tradition, the
next generation’s surname follows the father. Therefore, for the sake of the
family’s growth, the reproduction of the offspring will also lead to the
preference of sons over daughters.
There are still some countryside
families with three of four children in their family. If there is only one boy
and all the rest are girls, they will be given heavy household tasks with no
position at home. Girls cannot enjoy the same treatment as boys, this results
in fighting over each other; furthermore, became hated. The elderly will leave
their entire estate to their son, with nothing to their daughter. Similarly, in
families who lives in the city, if there is only one son in a family, this boy
will most likely become self-centered because everyone will never oppose his
argument at home; moreover, became arrogant. Parents are obsessed with the wish
of their son’s future success, if their son failed to have a good grade in
school, parents are likely to spank and scold him. Which caused their child to
become unsociable and dark. Obviously, patriarchy will not only affect girls’
development, but also affected the boys’ growth as well. Due to China’s
childbirth restrictions, each family can only have a maximum of two children.
Family planning allows parents to choose boys and give up girls by using B-scan
ultrasonography. As a result, areas with large male infant birth will have a
large amount of female infant deaths by drowning, abandon, or illegally
China has not completely ruled out
the idea of patriarchy. Fundamentally, there is no benefit of believing sons
are better than daughters. It will restrict the formation of the fine morality
of the children of the family, and constrain the community to carry out such
moral education as legal education for its members. Patriarchy affects all
aspects of moral education and must be excluded.