Family Values Throughout my life I have been influenced and taught lots of things by many people. My biggest influences were and still are my parents. I personally feel that a child’s parents are the most important people in their life, because they are who influence you starting at birth. I have always said my parents are my foundation and the older I get the more I believe it and appreciate them for being who they are. I consider myself lucky; I was raised in a loving home with both parents. As a matter of fact we recently celebrated their golden wedding anniversary.My dad worked his butt off so my mom could stay home with me and my sisters.
They have always been there for us no matter what we did; they were always there to give us love and support. They were always there when I needed somebody to talk to and let me know if I done wrong. Sometimes when I done wrong, they would discipline me I know now they were doing it because they loved me. Of course like everyone else I got mad at them a lot, but I always respected them and loved them. They were the ones that cared for me when I was sick and gave me what I needed to get better.My parents have taught me good values such as to be myself, they said to always stick to my own values and what makes me happy, to never stop dreaming, to always dream big and do my best at everything I do and never let anyone or anything stand in my way, to always respect myself and others, to always show kindness and compassion towards other people and treat them in a way that I want to be treated, that it’s important to always tell the truth and to always be thankful and appreciative. Being taught to go after what I want and what makes me happy no doubt played a big role in helping me decide to go back to school.There has been many, many times I have thought I can’t do this, work full time, go to school full time and raise my kids and when I do I hear my parents in the back of my mind saying “you can do it, you can do anything you sit your mind to” and I realize I can do it and it will be worth it.
Learning the “hidden” curriculum during my elementary and secondary school years taught me a lot that helps me today in everyday life, whether it be at home, work and in college. It taught me things such as Self control nd virtue which is very important, you have to be dedicated to your school work or you will fail, Punctuality, being on time for attendance and tasks are a big part of college, Accomplishment, taught me to finish what I start and to not give up if it gets hard just try harder, Cooperation, to participate in class, Dependability, you have to be reliable and trustworthy especially to take online classes, Diligence, attentiveness; persistence; perseverance are also very important, Pride, makes you want to do your best, you have to have dignity; self-respect; in order to do your best.As for race and ethnicity, I look at and treat everyone the same. I have friends of all race and ethnicity. It doesn’t matter to me what someone looks like, how they talk or where they are from because we are all human, we are all God’s children and should not be looked down on because of something like what color your skin is. I like meeting people from other place and learning things about them. It’s what makes the world go around. I personally don’t think it has had any influence on my gender or economic status.
As I said before I have lots of friends outside my racial and or ethnic group.My friends mean a lot to me and I have learned so much from each and every one of them. I have learned how different people from other places act, what their beliefs are and find it ethnic groups very interesting. I even like watching the news or reading books about other races and ethnic groups and learning how they live. Of course some of it is unbelievable and sometimes hard to understand, but if it wasn’t it wouldn’t be interesting. We would all be the same and the world would be boring. At one time I worked as a substitute teacher and the kids taught me a lot.
In one of my classes just so happen the day I was called in to teach a 2nd grade class, there was a little girl from another country that came in an hour after school started; it was her first day in class. It was very obvious she was scared to death and felt very out of place. She was dressed different and she talked different. Needless to say I was very worried because as we all know children can be very cruel because they are so honest and do not think before they speak.
Most of the time they just say what is on their little minds.I wanted to introduce her to the class but not by standing her up in front of all of them, I think if I had done that she would have just had a heart attack right there, so I just told her to sit down anywhere she wanted to and continued to teach as if she was a regular student that had always been there. Later I decided to play hot potato but the rule was whoever was holding the potato when the music stopped had to say their name and tell something about themselves. It seemed to work really well and by lunch time she was talking and cutting up like all the other children.This little girl was my daughter’s age and became good friends with my daughter as the years went on and was pretty much like another daughter to me. They graduated together last year and she is now going to MTSU with my daughter. The day they graduated school I took her and my daughter out for lunch, while sitting at the table she told me thank you and I said no problem, thinking she meant for lunch.
She said no thank you so much for making my life easier. I ask her what she meant and she said she would never forget her first day of school in America.She said she had been up all night the night before scared and worried, because she was different and was so afraid she wouldn’t be liked. She said God meant for me to be teaching that day because I didn’t make a big deal over her when she walked in class wearing her crazy clothes and talking different. It made it easier for her to fit in getting to move at her on pace and sitting there for a few minutes listening to the way they we done things.
She had tears in her eyes as she thanked me for respecting her enough to give her that few minutes to get control, that it made all the difference in the world.I knew at the time what I was doing was the right thing to do because the last thing a new student wants to do is stand up in front of class and be the center of attention but I never thought it had this effect on her. When raising a child one is taught values by their families that they feel are important for their child to have. I believe that family values consist of certain actions and qualities that are important for a family to uphold. The concept of “family values” is rooted in each individual culture.
Cultures change over time in response to economic, political, and cultural developments.Therefore, “family values” vary from household to household, from country to country, and from generation to generation. So nobody has a right to say another’s persons values are wrong or judge them for what they believe in.
It is who they were taught to be and who they are. In conclusion I think learning family and culture values are very important as a child. My family made the difference in many of the situations that life gave me and still gives me. Without them I would not be who I am today and would not be able to instill in my children the same values my parents instilled in me and give them the love and support to my parents gave me.