Gay Marriage and the Conservative Case for Gay Marriage Essay

Almost every human being is born with rights. Regardless of how extensive these rights are, rights are given none-the-less. Most people would think that being allowed to love the person you are in love with would be a right, right? Wrong. In Andrew Sullivan’s The Conservative Case for Gay Marriage, he helps to expose the verbal and non-verbal abuse that homosexuals couples are forced to endure day-to-day. Most of the defamation is unseen to the public, which would seem to make it even more painful. The only thing that same sex couples are trying to achieve is their right to be treated the same as other couples in the United States.

Unless you have truly been in the situation personally, what gives anyone the right to judge? Like many straight couples, same sex couples just want to happily live their lives with the person they love. They do nothing but mind their own business and go on with their day to day routines. Yet, living a normal American life isn’t as easy for them. A major struggle for all homosexuals who have finally found their ‘life partners’ is that they still don’t have the marriage rights that straight people do. Even though they have started their own wedding ceremonies, they still don’t get the same spouse rights as straight couples.

There are very few places that same sex couples can even attempt to tie the knot. In Sullivan’s article, he points out that three of Canada’s provincial courts ruled that denying gays the right to marrying was a violation of their constitutional commitment to civil equality (Sullivan 577). The United States government says that every citizen of the United States shall receive equal rights. Yet, if thats true, then why did they pass an act prohibiting the federal government from recognizing same-sex marriages as actual marriages?

There have been numerous court cases and an immense amount of protests, yet same sex couples still haven’t gained the right to say ‘I do’ to the person that they want to spend the rest of their life with. Another struggle that homosexual couples have to go through is the custody for their adopted kids. Although most gay couples lead normal lives, there aren’t many who adopt. The problem isn’t that there aren’t gays that want to adopt, it’s that some people think being gay means that they are unfit to be parents.

Even though the number of gay parents in America has significantly risen in the past few years, there is still a long process that homosexuals have to go through in order to have a family. This is a process that is much more time consuming than the same process that straights go through. It’s an unnecessary inconvenience that gay couples are coerced to go through just so that a few homophobics can feel as if they pulled one over on some ‘freaks. ’ As more and more kids are coming out at young ages, they are beginning to realize that they have no concept of what their future can be like.

Most grow up in heterosexual households and when they ‘come out,’ they have a feeling of seclusion from the rest of the family. They begin to see themselves as different and weird from every other member of the house. Growing up in a world where homosexuals are barely being accepted could be hard and sometimes lonely. In regards to growing up, Andrew Sullivan states that young straights have “never doubted that one day they could marry the person they love (Sullivan 578),” which is the complete opposite for young gays. Until recently, there was never even a glimmer of hope that one day they could grow up and have a family.

The more that people support gay marriage, the easier it will be for the younger generation to accept the future for our country. The continuous verbal, and sometimes physical, abuse that gays go through has begun to get completely out of hand. ‘Faggot,’ ‘queer,’ ‘homo,’ and ‘dyke’ have somehow become acceptable slander that the general public uses to describe someone who is in love with someone of the same sex. Using language like this is causing nothing but conflict in the gay community. How can they live their lives if everyday they’re constantly being told that they aren’t normal and that they don’t deserve to live?

Not only that, but the term ‘gay’ is now used widely as a meaning for something that is stupid or out of place. People constantly make statements like, ‘that’s so gay,’ and not only is it hurtful, it’s politically incorrect. Marrying the person you love should be a right that you gain at birth. No one should have to grow up wondering whether or not they will be able to marry the person they love one day. Legalizing gay marriage would make the world a lot easier for homosexuals to live in and could potentially put a rest to all of the hate crimes and homophobics. Being in love has never been against the law, so why should it be now?