When I was promoted from primary school to secondary school, I have met some bad peers. They never study, just liked to play. They always skipped the classes, and spent most of the time on playing online games in Internet cafe. In order to enter their group, I chose to follow them. As a result, my academic performance dropped sharply, and almost failed to promote to next grade. From this story, we can see that teenagers always get influence by their peers. Peers’ opinions and choices affect them.
They cannot free themselves from their peers and they can’t do away with peers’ pressure. Peer pressure is an important issue for teenagers. There are several reasons to explain this. First, teenagers enjoy being in a group of people who agree about things, they don’t want to be discriminated against and be pushed away from the group, therefore they will follow their peers’ behaviour. My personal experience attests to this: Before I met those bad peers, I was a good student who studied very hard and seldom played online games.
After I met them, I became a bad student who skipped the classes and always played online games, as I don’t want to be different, I want to be as same as them. Even I wanted to study, I would try to give up my mind. Second, is about independency. Teenagers are not children anymore, they want to grow up, get rid of their parents’ control, therefore they will prefer to listen their peers’ opinion rather than their parents’ opinion. This time, my personal experience also attests to this: My parents wanted me to have a good academic performance at school, they needed me to study every moment.
Meanwhile, those bad peers wanted me to play with them, they didn’t want me to study. They told me that study was a kind of wasting my time and my youthhood. So what next? Of course I chose to listen my peers’ opinion. Third, is about curiosity. Teenagers are curious about everything, they may follow their peers’ behaviour as they want to satisfy their curiosity. No matter parents or teachers, they always tell us that we should reject if our peers ask or compel us to have a first try of drugs. Even though we know that drugs are harmful, why some teenagers still go to try?
This is because they want to know what does it feel of taking drugs. This is the matter of curiosity! So, if peers ask or compel teenagers to do a thing, due to curiosity, teenagers will follow as well. It’s not unnatural for peer behavior to affect teenagers, but following their peers blindly is not a wise thing to do. Let’s see how peer pressure affects them. Peer pressure can lead to loss of individuality. As teenagers may be compelled to go by everything their peers think is right, they follow their friends blindly.
Therefore, they lose their originality of thought and conduct, they forget the way they wanted to live, they lose their identity. Teenagers are the most likely to fall prey to peer pressure. So, their parents and teachers should save them from succumbing to it. That does not means isolating them from peers, but teach them how to choose good friends from peers instead. When making friendship, teenagers should pay more attention on the natures of those peers. “Can they help me to develop a better me? Or will they lead me to the wrong track and lead me go astray? ” These are the questions they may think about.