Relational Communication Journal Essay

Relational Communication Journal

Introduction

As globalization suddenly gained popularity and widened the breadth of the international economy and society, human interaction around the globe has also increased. Communication is an essential aspect of man’s life. Through communication, we are able to express ourselves, our ideas and thoughts and share this to others. Communication is a vital human activity in order to carry out everyday functions and other important human activities.

            Communication is the process of transmitting messages and information from one person to another. This aims to avoid misunderstanding and conflict. Communication involves various skills pertinent in carrying out the process properly like listening and analyzing. The communication process is utilized in various areas of life such as community, home, school and the workplace (Bergeson).

            Communication is the process of exchanging thoughts, ideas and emotions. There are various types of communication process based on communication channels and based on style and purpose. Communication enhances and deepens our relationship with others. It also fosters our good and harmonious interaction with other people. There are various levels and types of communication that people utilize with different groups of people. For example, when we are communicating or talking with other members of our family, we tend to be more relaxed and comfortable with our communication. However, if we were communicating in a formal job interview, our communication with the interviewer is more tensed and nervous.

            There are different types of communication such as intrapersonal, interpersonal, group, intercultural and organizational communication. These different types of communication are used to different groups of people. Organizational communication is more utilized within the organization or business firms in the form of memorandums, orders and reminders from the superiors and feedback from the subordinates. But all kinds of communication are composed of the essential elements of communication including the process of transmitting of messages and information from one point to another.

Interpersonal Communication

            One of the most important types of communication is the interpersonal communication. Interpersonal communication is defined as the exchange of information or messages between two persons. This type of communication is often spontaneous and is based on psychological information that people hold about each other (Cahn 30).

Interpersonal communication is a type of communication relevant in sending messages to another person. It is a process in achieving understanding and unity within the group. In defining interpersonal communication, it is important to differentiate it from other types of communication. In interpersonal communication, few participants are involved in the communication process. The participants are close in spatial proximity and the sending of exchange of feedbacks is immediate (Borchers).

            Interpersonal communication is very important in all types of business and company. Interpersonal communication is the process utilized in order to manage all kinds of affairs and the main tool used in exchanging messages and information.

            Individuals also tend to mismanage their personal relationships with their friends and family members. For example, when they hold back significant personal information from people who matter in their lives, it may lead to conflict and misunderstanding. Thus, it is crucial to know how to manage interpersonal relationships and conduct an appropriate and effective communication to minimize conflict and misunderstanding (Cahn 30). Through the execution of fruitful interpersonal communication, people are able to establish interpersonal relationships. These relationships become the driving force of people’s lives.

Relational Communication

            Through communication we are able to establish harmonious and productive relationships with other people. Interpersonal communication helps a lot in enhancing the present relationships that we had.

            One of the significant relationships that I hold is the interpersonal relationship I have with my mother. I am an international student from South Korea and the interpersonal communication I have with my mother is more mediated and involves technology to bridge the geographical gap we have.

            When I was young, I view my mom as an authoritative figure and I just adhere on the governing rules in our household. The communication we had back then was really like that of a mother and child. She would tell me the things I should do and I should say. She guided me most of how I should act and usually decided for me when I was still young. During this time, she used to do most of the talking because I did not have a full grasp of the world yet.

Talking or speaking is one of the essential skills in communication. Through speaking, we are able to express our ideas and thoughts. Speaking goes hand in hand with language in expressing the ideas and thoughts of individuals. As such, speaking is one of the most important skills in communication because it helps us in voicing out what we want, what we think and what we feel.

            Language develops the most basic form of communication between individuals. It is the most developed tool in communication. We cannot really communicate without language. Language can take various forms such as poetry, prose, drama, speech but all of these are language that is read, spoken and written (Ghose).

            I always remember whenever she spoke with her melodic voice that used to soothe me. She always spoke in a soft manner that never made me jump and anxious of my actions. But whenever she spoke, it was with relevant rigidity and authority that I should follow and act according to the rules she imposed within the household. However, I had also been given the chance to voice out what I want. As a child, of course, the expression is limited to whining and being belligerent.

            Our relationship and way of communicating to each other had remained to be like a real parent and child relationship. My mother got her hands full of the household chores and rearing her children. And in my part, I was preoccupied of my studies and considered to study abroad.

            When I grew up, gradual changes started to occur physically, mentally and emotionally. My physical attributes slowly changed as well as my emotional and mental frames. There are things that I could no longer share with my parents. There have been issues that I am not comfortable to speak with them, especially to my mother. My mom felt that I was slowly instilling a gap between us and our communication is as infrequent as possible.

            We only talk of subjects that are of general concern like school, community, TV shows, to name a few. I seldom share personal matters and issues with her. I was shy that she might get confused with my curiosity over things. Eventually, I sought for my desired communication with my friends. The interpersonal communication I had with my friends is a lot different from the level I had with my mother. I am more open with my friends and I disclose more information with them than to my parents. I feel comfortable talking to them more often for I had no fear of being scolded. I thought that they will understand my thoughts better because we are of the same age.

            I figured that this may have upset my mother. Little communication widens the gap that is also reinforced with age. The generation gap may have also hindered me from being completely open with my feelings to my mother because I thought she would hardly understand what I needed to say.

My mother and I became the masters of non-verbal communication. We can also communicate even if we do not utilize the language and spoken words. People could still communicate with hands and art. Non-verbal form of communication is simply communicating with the absence of the spoken words. The non-verbal communication can be in various forms such as posture, feelings, facial expressions, touch, proxemics, and other nonverbal signals.

            Non-verbal cues give way to the truth behind the spoken words of my mother. My mother is always patient and calm. Even if she says that she is not angry or mad over something, you would know because of her actions. For certain instances, she will unconsciously put the plates and kitchen wares with so much sound.

            I also figured that my mother always knew what I felt because of the non-verbal cues that seemed to send the message to her. The non-verbal cues became our clues if we should approach each other or not. As such, these non-verbal cues have become equally helpful in unmasking the real messages concealed behind the spoken words that we utter.

            When I decided to pursue my studies in a foreign land, my communication with my mother has become reduced to mere messages, electronic mails and phone calls. Mediated communication is the type of communication that is aided by technology. The advancement and the rapid growth of world’s technology enabled man to develop various tools and gadgets that will enable man to communicate with another person through mobile phones, electronic mail and instant messaging.

            Despite the distance kept between us, technology made me feel that my mother and I are still close to each other. Our communication, however, changed into something more personal. It is no longer authoritative and coercive on telling me what I should do. When I have become old enough and more matured, I admit that my mother and I had grown closer because I am now able to share my real thoughts to her without the fear of being rejected and scolded.

Conclusion

            Communication is vital in all areas of life, as a part of daily human activities and functions. It entails the process of transmitting of messages and information from one person towards another.

Interpersonal communication is the means used to establish interpersonal relationships. Such relationships are cultivated and enriched through constant communication and reducing conflict between the people involved. Interpersonal communication refers to the interaction between two individuals or a small group of people. Interpersonal communication is the type of communication that is relevant in sending messages to another person.

Interpersonal communication is composed of different skills and aspects that describe the process of interpersonal communication. Through good interpersonal communication, we are able to foster and deepen significant relationships. One of the significant relationships that we should foster and continuously enhance is our relationship with our parents. Through constant communication, the gap between us and our parents will be eliminated; and therefore, this relationship can be further strengthened over time.

Works Cited

Bergeson, T. n.d. “Communication”. Superintendent of Public Instruction. 27 November 2008 <http://www.k12.wa.us/CurriculumInstruct/communications/default.aspx>.

Borchers, T. 1999. “Interpersonal communication”. Allyn & Bacon. 27 November 2008 <http://www.abacon.com/commstudies/interpersonal/interpersonal.html>.

Cahn, Dudley D. Letting Go: A Practical Theory of Relationship Disengagement and Re-engagement. Albany, New York: State University of New York Press, 1987.

Ghose, Bhaskar. “Language and Communication”. Frontline. 17-30 July 2004. 27 November 2008 <http://www.hinduonnet.com/fline/fl2115/stories/20040730001207300.htm>.