Sometimes Born out of typical Indian family,

Sometimes Virmati blames herself to be responsible
for the destruction of Ganga’s life. Virmati blooms into a “New Woman where she
displays her strength of mind in overcoming her dejection. She is “strong to
bear the pain, silently, without anyone knowing” (Kapur DD 91). She is still
struggling to establish her identity and to gain self-assertion. Though Virmati
frees herself from the old shackles, she becomes a new woman. She represents
the modern woman torn between desire for self and her helplessness. After her
first sex encounter with Harish, she tries to justify by saying that there was
no point in foolishly denying it on the basis of an “outmoded morality” (Kapur
DD 114). The novel also explores the problems of women in a male dominated
society. Born out of typical Indian family, Virmati is caught between tradition
and modernity. It results only in self-alienation and she becomes a symbol of
female imagination, responding to pressures and The family structure at the
Professors house is as oppressive as it was in her own home, their too she had
to fight to get her mother’s love and here also the constant struggle to get
the Professors love and attention. And yet she was amazed at her former
roommate Swarna Lata’s efforts to participate and help to bring about change
and be a part of the change. She asks Virmati to come and demonstrate against
the Hindu code bill “Men don’t want family wealth to be divided among women.
Say their sisters get dowry, that’s their share, and the family structure will
be threatened, because sisters and wives will be seen as rivals, instead of
dependents who have to be nurtured and protected. As a result women will lose
their moral position in society! Imagine!”(Kapur DD 232).

Virmati can only envy her as obviously these
activities did not prove to be a threat to her marital life and family
structure. There is constant negotiation with the family setting. Ida, Virmati’s
daughter and the books narrator understands their family structure .She says
“when I grew up I was very careful to tailor my needs to what I knew I could
get. That is my female inheritance. That is what she tried to give me. Adjust,
compromise, adapt .Assertion, though difficult to establish, is easy to
remember.”(DD, 236) Mrs. Kapur herself asserts that “conflict between mother
and daughter is inevitable and I suppose I was a difficult daughter. The
conflict carries on through generation because mothers want their daughters to
be safe. We want them to make the right choices-„right in the sense that they
are socially acceptable. My mother wanted me to be happily married; I want my
daughters to have good jobs.” (Bala and Chandra 107)