An incident of bullying in the Philippines hurdled into the local news and last September 24, 2012. A student on his senior year at Colegio San Agustin (CSA) School in Makati was bullied and mocked at school despite of his 6-foot height and his gentle and apologetic demeanor. His butt and genitals were often poked by one of his male classmates, his main tormentor. After months of constant taunts and harassment, Jamie Garcia had enough. He stabbed one of the bullies with a ballpen and punched another.
The incident escalated when the father of the classmate he punched rushed to his school, slapped and threatened him with what he recalled was a . 45-caliber gun. (Ubalde, 2012) This implies that the person being bullied seeks for retaliation towards the person who is bullying. And to this, at times, it shows that a person cannot handle himself from doing extremely outrageous and unanticipated due to the carrying full of rage. Bullying is a severe problem that can considerably concern the emotional capacity of the bully and the bullied.
According to Douglas Harper (2001), the word “bully” came from the Dutch boel, “lover; brother” which is probably a diminutive of Middle Dutch broeder “brother” and originally meant “sweetheart” as applied to either sex. Its meaning deteriorated during the 17th century, from “fine fellow” and “bluster” to “harasser of the weak”. “Protector of a prostitute”, a connecting sense between “lover” and “ruffian”, which became a sense of the word bully but this sense was not specifically attested until 1706.
The expression meaning “worthy, jolly, admirable” is first attested 1680s, and preserves an earlier, positive sense of the word. As a federal government website managed by the U. S Department of Health & Human Services defined bullying, it is said to be an “unwanted, aggressive behavior among school aged children that involves a real or perceived power imbalance. The behavior is repeated, or has the potential to be repeated, over time. Both kids who are bullied and who bully others may have serious, lasting problems”.
Bullying includes actions such as making threats, spreading rumors, attacking someone physically or verbally, and excluding someone from a group on purpose. Bullying is a severe problem that can considerably concern the capacity of students to progress academically, socially, and spiritually. Even before, schools are considered as kingdoms ruled by king and queen bees with their wallflowers and a world of predators with their prey. Students are stereotyped according to their social standing in schools.
Either a student is in the spotlight with the “it” kids and their clique or in the shadows of these people, prevalently called as “losers” or “underdogs”. These kinds of social classifications ground the bullying behaviors of those who are in the upper classification in schools which are exceedingly detrimental to students living in the dark shadows behind those “it” kids. According to Black and Jackson (2007), “there lies and ‘an imbalance power’ between the parties involved in bullying. The bully is stronger through social status, physical prowess, age, cognitive abilities or skill. ” Bullying is becoming more and more rampant than before as people overhear bullying incidents on the news which makes bullying a dreadfully important issue that people should not overlook. A news article on United Kingdom’s BBC Radio 1’s website about bullying was published last October 17, 2012. A 15-year-old girl, Amanda Todd, from British Columbia, Canada killed herself after being bullied online. It comes five weeks after she uploaded a video to YouTube describing years of bullying that she said drove her to drugs and alcohol.
In the nine-minute video she told her story with a set of handwritten notes. The recording, described as “haunting”, showed the cheerleader going into detail about what happened to her. She said she was persuaded to expose her breasts to a stranger who then sent the photo to her school friends. “Recently bullying amongst young people has gain notoriety in the press due to the extreme results it has had on certain young individuals. Despite the press attention given to these cases, the extreme consequence of suicide does not occur in the majority of cases.
Victims can also suffer from degration, despair, anxiety, emotional instability, and difficulty in social interaction. This lead to the finding of Kumpulainen et. al. , (1998) that ‘bullying is a common phenomenon among children who are psychological disturbed’. The writer went on to say that there are ‘higher rates of psychological distress among both bullies and victims’ than those not involve. Thirty-one per cent if children had been bullied at some point”. (Joe, 2010) This being the case shows that anyone can be bullied. Depression and severe suicidal ideation are strongly linked to being bullied or to acting as a bully. Even an infrequent involvement in bullying (being bullied or being a bully) increases the likelihood of severe suicidal ideation, independent of depression. Being bullied frequently is likely to be a considerable source of stress. Depression among those who were frequently bullied might be expected. However, adolescents who are depressed may also attract negative attention from their peers. Previous research suggests that compared with their peers, those who are bullied are more introverted, less assertive and are over involved in their families.
Victims also tend to be rejected by peers. Depression could thus be both a result of and a reason for being bullied. Although the association between being a bully and depression has not received attention in previous research, bullies have been shown to have certain mental health problems. Being a bully, on the other hand, has been associated with juvenile delinquency, alcohol misuse, violence in adulthood, and criminal behavior. The social background of bullies also suggests that they are vulnerable to psychiatric morbidity.
Being a bully has been associated with rejection by peers and social isolation. ” (British Medical Journal, 1999) The increased prevalence of depression and severe suicidal ideation among both those who were bullied and those who were bullies make bullying a relentless predicament that can considerably concern the emotional capacity of students. Bullying does not only concern the emotional capability of the “prey” but also the “predator’s” as Confucious said, “What the superior man seeks is in himself; what the small man seeks is in others. ”