Trust vs. Mistrust Essay

In this stage of life you will be faced with obstacles that will either make or break the person you are, as well as the person you’re working to become. Erik Erikson’s stage theory of psychosocial development contributed to our understanding of personality development throughout your lifespan. Each stage in Erikson’s theory is concerned with becoming competent in each area of life. If the stage is handled well, the person will feel a sense of mastery, which is sometimes referred to as ego strength or ego quality. If the stage is managed poorly, the person will emerge with a sense of inadequacy.

In the starting point of your life usually from birth to about 18 months old the most viable resources to you would mostly be feeding and how well you grow during the time you start your formula to developing the ability to eating more solid foods such as whole fruits, chicken nuggets, various meats and vegetables. Usually during the first 18 months children develop a sense of trust when caregivers provide reliability, care, and affection. A lack of this will lead to mistrust, and soon a separation between the child and the caregivers around them.

You may see that it is easy to gain the trust of a small child or infant, but what people fail to realize is that if you are in a baby’s life they will grow attached to you and will respond to you as if your their parents or guardian, but if you were to go away for a few months and then return your bond or connection with said child will either be a small one or they may not react to you at all other then as a stranger. The more your around a child this age the bigger the bond you will maintain with them.

Next is early childhood, usually between the ages two and three when the toddler begins to have the connections and learning patterns they soon learn to become potty trained. Children need to develop a sense of personal control over physical skills and a sense of independence. Success leads to feelings of autonomy, failure results in feelings of shame and doubt. In this stage rewarding a child when they use the bathroom on their own will help boost their confidence and will help training them to say or go to the bathroom when needed easier rather than getting upset with them if they have an accident.

It may take time to train a toddler to use the restroom on their own as well as training there body to hold in their urine or feces. But patience is a virtue, and helps a successful outcome in the end. Preschool years usually between the ages of three and five will help them gain self-control, and interaction with other children. During this stage of exploration young children will get hurt, laugh, cry, fight and argue with other children because they are learning how others react and how friendships form. Children need to begin asserting control and power over the environment.

Success in this stage leads to a sense of purpose. Children who try to exert too much power experience disapproval, resulting in a sense of guilt. Child interaction is a huge part in their lives because from daycare on they will be constantly interacting with other children. In this stage of life you don’t want them to lash out and hurt others because they don’t get there way or they feel they are being presented in different ways to others. Having one set form of control will help them develop one set of rules in their lives rather than them constantly being told different things.

Following the beginning stages of interaction and socialism, is their school years. This time period is usually from age’s six to eleven. In this time frame they will start learning and developing stronger social skills and forming friends that last in their lives. Children need to cope with new social and academic demands. Success leads to a sense of competence, while failure results in feelings of inferiority. In this time you will start to see children’s strengths and weaknesses. Over the years of their development they will lose and gain new friends.

This will help them figure out where they tend to belong in school, and whether or not they will be getting into sports, dance, academics and other extracurricular activities. Keeping them in a social environment will help them with their self-esteem as well as getting them out of their shell. Finally the adolescent years range from ages 12 to 18. These are the biggest group of years in their lives because they are the most social. Teens need to develop a sense of self and personal identity. Success leads to an ability to stay true to you, while failure leads to role confusion and a weak sense of self.

If parents keep their children social and encourage them to get involved, then they are less likely to be in a sense a loner or someone who stays home and doesn’t interact with other kids. This may be the case because they feel different or are treated different due to the lack of social interaction they were presented with growing up. Bullying can play a large factor negatively during these years so it is strongly encouraged that children become physically and emotionally ready, so that they can find ways to fit in and interact with others.

I understand that bullying will never go away but I strongly urge parents to try and get their children involved in a sport, after school activity or even fun time with other cousins or neighbors in their neighborhood. Growing up I was taught that if I told my mom I needed to go to the bathroom rather than have an accident, I would get rewarded with something fun. Having a positive reaction to your child telling you they need to use the restroom will benefit them in a positive way rather than getting upset with them if they have an accident.

My mom always encouraged me to get in to sports because it was an easy way to meet friends, and if I wasn’t doing sports I was around my cousins. This helped me because it boosted my self-esteem and gave me a positive outlook on the different types of people there are in the world. I’m grateful my mom encouraged me to get involved growing up and I think that all parents should do the same thing with their children in order for them to gain the necessary social skills needed in life.